As far as tales tell, everything new and unknown to man’s senses has created doubt and denial of recognition. Changes begin where familiarity ends. It is indeed a fact that only a fraction remains resistant to changes and start-overs: new environment, new workplace, new people to work with, and new everything. Most find it difficult but all along changes were made to be constant. Once, Nicole Sobon said,
“The hardest part is not letting go but, rather, the starting over.” Perceiving the “new” as difficult and impossible to go through, you may just have forgotten to ask why. Asking ‘why’ gets us to the root of the problem.
Too much attachment
It may be a person, a lifestyle, a thing a person may get attached with but whatever it is, one may just have closed his mind from new crowd, new way of living or new things to enjoy with. We just have to say yes and take a step and open a door towards new opportunities. 21 days is said to be the minimum number of days a person gets attached with and used to something, one that we call conditioning, and after that, if the subject of attachment goes absent one will notice change that may somehow generate negative feelings and trigger depression.
This is quite true in cases such as losing a loved one and giving up a possession owned for long. Surveys even say that a person completely changes, from age and appearance down to his likes and dislikes, for a span of ten years wherein he will be considered totally and metaphorically a changed and renewed being.
Stuck in your comfort zone
Man by nature seeks satisfaction but satisfaction itself is endless and refusing to explore what is beyond the horizon, is like becoming stagnant water that had never once felt how to flow with the river, or a bird caged without ever taking flight and see that the world is curved and not flat. This is a common reason to resist change as one gets satisfied to his current being.
Satisfaction is okay, but being satisfied too much restricts one to grow within as a person is definitely not good and safe anymore. You’re not growing any younger and that you’re not going anywhere with your life either.
LOW SELF ESTEEM. Confidence is of a major factor to go sail in the wide seas with the big waves, right? Honing one’s self into someone that should be humble enough not to brag, but confident enough not to feel small is the key to achieve the self-belief you need not to fear change. New things won’t be as scary as you think it is if you know how to hold your head up and eyes straight in front.
Not being able to know things beyond your sight or simply the new things awaiting you, believing in yourself may just be the elixir to save you from fearing the unknown the changes may bring. Your self will be the only person to decide if you can take the challenge of accepting new things in your life, no matter who or what will be there for you, it is only you that can break free from the bondage of a stationary and monotonous life.
After the learning the ‘why’ is the ‘how?’ TAKE A STEP FORWARD! As simple as that, then keep walking. After all, we were given feet to walk, not just to stand and by covering distance can we say that we gave change a chance to take place in our lives not to inflict pain but to teach us things, hard ones even. Change isn’t just for your failed attempts of a typical New Year’s resolution but for a successful all-year-round practice.
If the world is spinning, people and especially you should go with it; and if the world is learning, we should too. If it is for the better, try beating the current you. It will be more like the rules of survival; the wisest who embrace change are the ones most likely to survive the wild we call life.